Part of our new life in sobriety involves trying to figure out our place in this wholly unfamiliar world. At least, to those of us who are first-timers to sobriety it does. Maybe that even applies more so to those who are returning to the clean-and-sober fold for a successive time. What’s old is new again, isn’t that how it goes? While we may think we know, or knew, what it takes to stick to our commitment to stay sober, when it comes right down to putting our action where our mouth is, we sometimes find we’re in a bit of a quandary.
There are so many things to do. Friends and well-meaning loved ones may have a lot of advice, or none that’s very relevant. We may find ourselves feeling betwixt and between, not really sure if we have any goals worth pursuing or fearful of our ability to accomplish even the most minor of tasks we set for ourselves, learn how at a Drug Rehabilitation in Utah Center.
Where, in all this maelstrom of confusion, uncertainty, fear and anxiety, does the thought of success and/or happiness come in? Does it even stand a chance? While it’s normal to be apprehensive of a future that’s not yet here, we can take comfort in knowing that we will get stronger and develop more self-confidence over time. That’s been the case for many who’ve entered recovery before us, is true for many who are in recovery now, and will likely prove true for us as well.
But we cannot just sit around and expect to be successful or for happiness to drop down upon us like rain from above. We have to work for it. And sometimes that means working very hard. Okay, so hard work is pretty much a given. How do we know what to work toward? Isn’t that an interesting question? The answer will depend on a number of different factors, not the least of which is our overall inclination toward achieving certain goals. More to the point may be if certain goals are even in our list of possibilities.
We may, for example, not be at a place yet where we allow ourselves the freedom to dream of something that we currently don’t have. We may not even know we want a certain goal, never having had much success in goal-setting and achievement of goals before. But we can begin the process. We all can do that. It doesn’t take any special intelligence or skills to dredge up a desire to do better, to be better. After all, we’ve come this far. We’ve made it through rehab and are now embracing recovery. We can do it, if we put our minds and hearts and souls into it.
The way to begin is to start small. Instead of loading up our list of goals with seemingly impossible ones, why not pencil in some short-term, realistic goals that are fairly easy to achieve? The more we accomplish these small goals, the more self-confident we’ll feel and the more motivated we’re likely to be to want to think of and tackle goals that are a little more of a stretch, that require more time and effort, and determination.
That’s how this building-block process of recovery works. Sure, it helps to have goals that we want to achieve. But those will come in time. By getting to the next step in your to-do list, achieving what you set out to do, and feeling good about it, you’re helping solidify your ability to make wise choices and to follow through on what needs to be done.
Here’s another tip. Strive to feel good about even the small goals you succeed in achieving. Getting what you want is the bonus. That’s success. When you realize that you do, indeed, feel pleased about what you get – due, in large part, to the amount of effort you’ve put into it, you’ll come to the amazing conclusion that you’re happy about who you are and what you’ve achieved, all this and much more can be learned at our Intensive Outpatient Drug Treatment in Utah.
Does it always work out this way? The truth is that there’s probably a good mix of success and happiness in each and every goal we consider, put on our list, make plans toward, work on, and achieve (or not). It may be, for instance, that we put a goal on our list and go through the steps toward realizing that goal only to find that it wasn’t what we really wanted after all. Or it could be that we’ve moved past that goal, found a new direction to pursue, or branched out from this current goal into one that’s now more meaningful to us.
If it’s meaningful, it’s probably something that we’ll work harder to achieve, that we want, and that makes us happy. Substance Abuse Treatment in Utah County is as good a place to start as any.